Ever wonder why most people give up on their new year's resolutions?
Better still, how do the ones who go on to meet their resolutions stick with it?
Well I just might have the answers for you! And not to worry, it's not about working harder or setting more achievable goals (although doing those wouldn’t hurt your chances lol)
In this short blog post, we’ll explore two mindset hacks that will help you to not only meet your new year’s resolution, but also make 2022 your most accomplished year yet.
The first thing you’ll have to do is to….
Achieving our goals usually means gaining something new in our life; more money, a new job, a better relationship…you name it! We hardly ever think about what we’re holding on to that might be preventing us from gaining these new things. When we don’t get what we want, we often feel that we just need to work harder or be more ambitious, but usually, the very thing preventing us from moving on to better things are the things we’re currently holding on to.
Everything you add to your life means you have to give something up. But we often only focus on what we're gaining and forget to look at the things we're leaving behind.
If you decide to learn a new skill like programming or forex trading, it means less time spent browsing social media. While setting your goals for the year, make sure you identify what it is you need to let go of and be ready to make the trade-off.
You might be holding on to negative thought processes that are preventing you from seeing things in a better light. You might be nurturing unhealthy relationships or be inhabiting a toxic environment that is not conducive to your growth.
The best thing we can do in this situation is to let go because building something new and good on bad foundations will be extremely difficult. Learn to let go of that inner critic telling you you’re not good enough, learn to leave places and people that do not support the expression of your best self.
Before you commit to your goals for the year, recognize what you will gain by achieving these goals. And think about what you'll need to give up before you make the change. Simply acknowledging this ahead of time and developing a plan to deal with the change can help remind you that it is worth the price you're going to pay.
Letting go is not easy but it’s definitely worth it. As the popular Chinese saying goes,
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. “
We kill our chances of success from the very beginning just by believing we are not good enough. Thinking this way prevents us from even putting in the effort that might have eventually led us to our success. Carol Dweck, the renowned psychologist and author of the book “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.” calls this, thinking with a fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset means you believe intelligence, skills, and other qualities are innate and unchangeable. If you’re not good at something, you typically think you will never be good at it. So, if you’re thinking with a fixed mindset, you are probably saying to yourself things like “I’m not good at investing, only bankers and people who studied Finance are good at investing” or “I can’t make friends because I’m not good at relating with people”.
By contrast, a growth mindset means you believe intelligence, skills, and capabilities can be developed with practice and effort. It is thinking “I’m not good at investing now, but I can learn and become great at it with time”. This is the mindset adopted by a majority of the world’s successful people.
Not surprisingly, your mindset plays a major role in your motivation, resilience, and achievement. Adopting a growth mindset is creating a fertile ground for planting the seeds of your success. For this reason, it is the best mindset to adopt when setting goals for the new year.
In summary, to ensure you don’t give up on your goals in 2022 and make it a successful year, you ought to:
By making these simple but significant changes, 2022 is likely to be a very promising year for you.
Let’s help you meet your new year's resolution.